Grieving A Death
Dealing with the death of a family member, close friends or anyone else we care about can be extremely difficult. I would like to start by offering my condolences if you have recently suffered from a loss. I would also like to offer you some helpful advice on how to deal with a death. Please keep in mind, everyone deals with death differently. Finding the way that works best for you is extremely important.
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People grieve in different ways, normally and abnormally. Those who have recently lost a loved one often require an extraordinary amount of support. After the passing of a loved one and the honoring of their time on Earth, time should be focused on helping the leaving deal with their loss.
There is not a medically prescribed way of dealing with death. There is no set time frame that you must complete your grief in, or a certain way to do it. When the loss of someone close occurs, grief is a natural reaction to a life changing event. The death of a family leader will cause markedly deeper grief than that of someone further down the lineage. Your religious affiliation may suggest certain acts to help deal with the death.
The easiest way to determine what your faith may suggest is to ask your officiant at church. They are used to answering questions about how to deal with grief, so do not be ashamed to tell them you need help.
When you first lose someone, you may feel like your world has ended. You need to readjust to your life without this person in it. There is no time frame for this. It may only take you six months to look at this person’s picture and not be upset. This is normal.
Feelings of guilt, anger, shame, helplessness, regret, sleeplessness and anxiousness are all very normal reactions. You may have these feelings for a year. That is completely normal. Speaking of the deceased as though they are still a part of your life is normal.
When speaking to children about death, do not tell them that the person was ill and had to go to Heaven. The child then associates illness with going away, and this can cause damage to the child’s psyche in later years. Do not tell the child that the deceased is sleeping. Again, this associates a normal occurrence with dying, which can damage the child later in life. Do tell the child on their level what has happened. If the child is old enough to know what has happened, most Psychologists suggest letting them attend the funeral.
Speaking with your family or close friends can help to ease the pain of the loved one lost. This will not replace the deceased, but increase your acceptance of life without that person in it. Many families use Memorials for remembrance.
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